Types of Trauma Teens Experience and How It Affects Their Mental Health
Maybe you've noticed your teen flinching when a door slams. They freeze up when faced with conflict. Situations that seem safe to everyone else suddenly trigger panic, but they can't explain why. If your teen is carrying the weight of past trauma, you're not alone in trying to help them through it. Teen therapy in San Ramon can offer the support and tools your teen needs to process what happened and begin to heal. Trauma isn't always what people think it is. It's not just the big, obvious events we see in movies.
For teens, trauma can come from experiences that might seem small to adults but feel overwhelming to them. And trauma doesn't just live in their memories; it lives in their bodies, their nervous systems, and the ways they move through the world. This blog will explore the types of trauma teens experience and how it affects their mental and physical health. We’ll also discuss what you, as a parent, can do to support your teen's healing.
What Does Trauma Really Mean for Teens?
Trauma isn't just about what happened; it's about how the experience overwhelmed your teen's ability to cope. It's about what their nervous system couldn't process in the moment and is now carrying forward. This is backed by research from experts like Bessel van der Kolk, author of "The Body Keeps the Score". Trauma gets stored in the body. When something traumatic happens, the body remembers even when the mind tries to move on. That's why teens might have physical reactions: tension, stomachaches, and panic, without always understanding why.
What makes something traumatic?
The experience felt life-threatening or deeply unsafe
Your teen felt helpless, powerless, or alone
Their nervous system went into survival mode: fight, flight, freeze, or fawn.
They didn't have the support or resources to process it at the time.
Here's an important distinction: what feels traumatic to one teen might not feel the same to another. There's no hierarchy of "bad enough" when it comes to trauma. What matters is understanding how your teen experienced and internalized what happened to them. Your teen's feelings and reactions are valid, regardless of how the event might look from the outside.
What Types of Trauma Do Teens Experience?
Trauma comes in many forms, and recognizing the different types can help parents understand what their teen might be carrying.
Acute Trauma
Acute trauma is a single, distressing event. This could be a car accident, a sudden loss, witnessing violence, or a medical emergency. Even if it happened once, the impact can linger for months or years. The memory might fade, but the body's response often doesn't.
Chronic Trauma
Chronic trauma involves repeated exposure to distressing situations over time. This might include ongoing bullying, living in a home with domestic violence, experiencing neglect, or enduring years of emotional abuse. Chronic trauma teaches teens that the world isn't safe, and that can reshape how they see themselves and others. It becomes their baseline.
Complex Trauma
Complex trauma is exposure to multiple traumatic events. It often occurs within relationships that should have been safe, like abuse from a caregiver or family member. Complex trauma affects a teen's ability to trust, regulate emotions, and form healthy attachments. It's layered and deep, and it often requires specialized support to heal. The violation of trust makes it especially painful.
Developmental Trauma
Developmental trauma is trauma that happened during critical developmental periods, like early childhood. Even if a teen doesn't consciously remember what happened, their nervous system does. Developmental trauma can show up as difficulty with emotional regulation, relationship struggles, or a deep sense of unsafety that they can't quite explain.
Vicarious or Secondary Trauma
Vicarious trauma, also known as secondary trauma, happens when teens witness someone else's trauma. It can also occur when they are repeatedly exposed to traumatic stories, such as through the news or social media. Teens are empathetic, and sometimes absorbing others' pain can become traumatic for them, too. They carry what they've seen or heard.
Collective Trauma
Community or collective trauma affects an entire community: natural disasters, school shootings, and pandemics. These experiences create shared grief and fear, and teens may feel the weight of it even if they weren't directly harmed. The collective nature of it can make teens feel both connected and isolated at the same time.
Medical Trauma
Medical trauma comes from serious illness, invasive procedures, or prolonged hospital stays. For teens, losing control over their body or feeling helpless during medical treatment can be deeply traumatic. The physical pain becomes intertwined with emotional pain.
These aren't separate boxes. Many teens experience multiple types of trauma, and the effects can overlap and compound each other. Understanding the different types helps you see the full picture of what your teen might be carrying. When trauma is layered, healing often requires patience and a teen trauma therapist who understands the complexity of what your teen has been through.
How Does Trauma Affect Teen Mental Health?
Trauma doesn't just stay in the past. It shows up in how teens think, feel, and move through their daily lives. Anxiety and hypervigilance are common. Trauma puts their nervous system on high alert. Meaning, teens may feel constantly on edge, waiting for the next bad thing to happen. They might startle easily, struggle to relax, or avoid situations that remind them of what happened. Their body is trying to protect them, but it's exhausting. Depression and emotional numbness can also set in. Some teens shut down emotionally as a way to protect themselves. They might feel disconnected, empty, or like nothing matters. Depression after trauma isn't laziness; it's exhaustion from carrying so much. It's their nervous system saying, "I can't handle any more."
Difficulty with trust and relationships often follows trauma, especially when trauma happens in relationships. It can make it hard for teens to trust others or feel safe being vulnerable. They might push people away or cling too tightly, unsure of how to find balance. Relationships feel risky because they've been hurt before. Physical symptoms are also part of the picture. Remember, trauma lives in the body. Teens might experience chronic tension, headaches, stomachaches, or fatigue. Their body is holding what their mind hasn't been able to process. The physical pain is real, even if there's no medical explanation for it.
Changes in behavior are another sign. Trauma can look like anger, withdrawal, risk-taking, or perfectionism. It might show up as changes in sleep, eating, or school performance. Behavior is communication; it's their way of showing you something is wrong, even when they can't find the words to explain it.
What Can Parents Do to Support Their Teen's Healing?
You can't erase what happened to your teen, but you can create the conditions for healing. Your role matters more than you might realize. Here are three powerful ways you can support your teen.
Work on Your Own Co-Regulation
This is the foundation. Co-regulation means being able to manage your own emotional response so you can stay calm and present when your teen is having big feelings. If you panic when they panic, it reinforces their nervous system's message that things aren't safe. Your calm becomes their anchor. How do you build this skill? Work with your own therapist to process your feelings about what your teen has been through.
It's okay to have big emotions about their trauma, but you need a space to work through them so they don't spill over onto your teen. Practice meditation or mindfulness to help regulate your own nervous system. Even just five minutes a day of deep breathing or grounding exercises can make a difference. When you can stay grounded, you become a safe anchor for your teen. Your nervous system communicates to theirs that they're okay, even when everything feels chaotic.
Encourage Movement and Body Awareness
Trauma is stored in the body, and movement is one of the most powerful ways to release it. Encourage your teen to move their body in mindful ways: breathing exercises, yoga, walking or running outdoors, dancing, or any activity that helps them tune into how their body feels. Why does this matter? Movement helps teens become aware of where they're holding tension and what feelings are showing up somatically, which means in their body.
When they have more insight into how their body feels, they can find ways to process trauma more easily. This isn't about intense workouts or pushing through pain. It's about gentle, intentional movement that reconnects them with their body and helps release what's been stored there. Even a ten-minute walk outside can help shift their nervous system from stress mode to calm.
Find a Good Therapist
Your teen needs a space to process what happened, gain awareness and insight, and develop their own coping strategies. A teen therapist in San Ramon who specializes in trauma can offer evidence-based approaches like EMDR, somatic therapy, or trauma-focused CBT. These aren't just talk therapy; they're approaches designed specifically to help the nervous system process and release trauma.
What should you look for in a therapist? Find someone your teen feels comfortable with. Trust and safety are essential for trauma work. Your teen needs to feel like they can be vulnerable without judgment. It might take a few tries to find the right fit, and that's okay. Don't give up if the first therapist doesn't click. The relationship between your teen and their therapist is one of the most important factors in healing.
Healing from Trauma Takes Time, But It Does Happen
The types of trauma teens experience are varied and complex, and the effects can show up in their mental health, physical health, and relationships. But with the right support, healing is possible. It won't happen overnight, and there will be setbacks and hard days. But with patience, compassion, and the right tools, your teen can learn to regulate their nervous system, process what happened, and move forward.
As a parent, you don't have to have all the answers. You just need to show up, stay regulated, and help your teen access the support they need. You're not alone in this, and neither is your teen.
If your teen is struggling with trauma, teen therapy in San Ramon can help. At Ritenour Counseling, we specialize in trauma-informed care for teens and can help them process what happened and begin to heal. Contact us today at (925) 212-8014.
Is Your Teen Struggling with the Weight of Trauma? Teen Therapy in San Ramon, CA Can Help
If you're watching your teen carry the weight of past trauma (struggling with anxiety, difficulty trusting others, or physical symptoms they can't explain), you don't have to figure this out alone. At Ritenour Counseling, we specialize in trauma-informed care for teens and understand how trauma affects the developing brain and nervous system. Teen therapy in San Ramon can help your teen process what happened, regulate their nervous system, and begin to heal.
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Other Services With Ritenour Counseling in San Ramon
Supporting your teen through trauma is often part of a larger journey toward emotional well-being and resilience. At Ritenour Counseling, we recognize that trauma doesn't exist in isolation. It's often connected to anxiety, depression, relationship struggles, family dynamics, and identity development. Our goal is to provide comprehensive support that addresses what your teen and family are experiencing right now and adapts as needs evolve.
Trauma-informed care is an important part of the support provided at Ritenour Counseling, but it's designed to work as part of a broader, flexible support system. As teens grow and change, the challenges they face often shift as well. What feels overwhelming today may ease as your teen builds coping strategies and processes their experiences, and therapy can adjust along the way.
In addition to therapy for teens navigating trauma, we offer a variety of counseling services, including therapy for anxiety and depression, bipolar disorder support, bullying-related concerns, children's therapy, family systems therapy, parent counseling, relationship therapy, couples counseling, stress management, therapy for technology and screen time, and support for highly sensitive individuals.
A teen's trauma may be influenced by family relationships, past experiences, attachment struggles, or ongoing stressors in their environment. Rather than limiting therapy to a single issue, our approach focuses on understanding what your teen and family are experiencing right now and identifying the areas that feel most important to address.
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About the Author
Michelle Ritenour, LMFT, has been practicing in San Ramon since 2008. Born and raised in the East Bay, Michelle is now raising her own children in the community she's always called home. Before becoming a therapist, she spent 10 years as an elementary school teacher in the local school district, giving her a firsthand understanding of the challenges teens face and how trauma can affect their development. Michelle's training centered on Family Systems and child/adolescent therapy.
Her approach is warm and empathic, and much of her work focuses on helping teens and young adults who are feeling stuck take a step forward. She brings her friendly and approachable personality to every session, infusing humor and lightheartedness while also being direct when necessary. Michelle creates a safe space where teens feel comfortable expressing themselves, processing difficult experiences, and working toward meaningful change.